Step 3 – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him

Christina’s Version

Decided to quit trying to be the boss and rely on a higher power instead.

Personalize It

I make a commitment to get through the steps and learn how not to live by self-will. I’m learning to trust that I don’t have to control everything to be okay. Letting go is hard, but I’m willing to try because I’ve seen where self-will gets me—and it’s not where I want to be.

Step 3 Truth I Hold Onto

I will get through the steps and live a life of intention and conscious choice to the best of my ability. I state this commitment without reservation.

Step 3 Concepts

Surrendering to a Higher Power

• I offer myself to the care of a power greater than myself.
• I stop trying to run the show and start listening for spiritual guidance.
• Surrender doesn’t mean weakness—it means strength to see this through to the end.

Freedom from Self-Will

• Self-will is the stubborn insistence on doing things my way, even when it hurts me.
• Letting go of self-will opens the door to peace and clarity.
• I’m learning to pause and ask: “Is this my will or God’s will?”

Purpose Beyond My Own Healing

• My recovery isn’t just for me—it’s so I can help the still-suffering compulsive eater.
• My healing deepens when I use my experience to support someone else’s journey.

Final Reflection

Step 3 is where I stop fighting and start trusting. It’s not about perfection—it’s about willingness. I’m learning to live one day at a time, guided by something greater than myself. The next step is where the real digging begins. Get your pen, your notebook, or your favorite Step 4 resentment sheets—and let’s keep going.

Helpful Resources

• OA Big Book – https://oabigbook.info/
• Big Book For Dummies (written for alcoholics) – https://bigbookfordummies.com/worksheets/